Lesson 07: 100/0

Do you believe in “True Love”? Yes, I think most of us do not believe in true love.

Do you want to receive “True Love”? Yes, I think all of us want to receive the true love from other people. Receive true love from your husband, family members, boss, colleagues, strangers, and so on.

How to get really true love from them? There is only one way to achieve it. It is that you take full responsibility (100) for the relationship first, expecting nothing (0) in return. If you can do things by this way, you will get the true love and respect from others.

I think some of us will disagree with my point. You can provide me a lot of stories to prove that this principle is not correct. I believe in that your stories are true. I also can tell you a true story came from my own life.

It was happened when I was in Shanghai. One day I was driving to take my daughter back home. When I was driving through a junction, a car hit the left side of my car.  It was not a serious accident. At that time it was late for me to go to kindergarten.  The driver realized that it was his fault and he apologized to me with polite attitude. So I told him that I have to go to kindergarten right now and I can be back in 10 minutes. I also gave him my contact information. But when I was back, there were no one there. The next day, I got a call from police and I was told that I escaped from the accident and I should be charged to take the full responsibility for this accident.

The key point is that when you take the full responsibility, do remember to protect yourself. We can expect nothing but we can not be hurt. Although I believe that all the people in the world are honest, some people are really, really bad. They will take the advantage of our 100% responsibility to cheat or hurt us.  

Lesson 06: Schools kill creativity

Schools kill creativity

This is really a big topic. Before I start this speech, I would like to ask you a question. Do you know what happened the last week in China?

Yes. Last week there are over 9 million high school students to take the entrance test of College and University. They only have one chance to take this test. It is one of the most important milestones of their lives.

When I read this topic, I can not remember my school life. So this time I would like to share a true story with you. It is a true story because it is true school life about me.

My story is very simple. Do the test, every day, every week and every month. In the 6 years of my secondary school life, what I remember is one thing that is to do all kinds of test for one goal. The goal is to get high score in the final test.

So I can feel the pain that I got in my school life until now. I believe that I am smart but I do not have creativity. Why I believe I do not have any creativity? I can tell you another true story about my work. Do you know how I do my work? I just follow 3 steps to do my work.

One is to Google. I enter the key world and look for what I want.

Then I copy the coding that I am looking for.

Finally I paste the codes and do a little change.

After you hear my stories, do you think I am a creative guy? I think the answer is NO.

I hope my kids will not have the same experience in their school life.

Maxwell HU

2013-06-11

Lesson 05: Make People Feel Good

Make People Feel Good

Hi, good evening. Have you made other people feel good? But I really do not know I have made other people feel good because nobody have told me.

After I went through this topic, I can not help remembering 3 people that they really make me feel good.

One is my son. My son is only 4 years old now. He always gives a surprise when I go back home. In fact it is not really a surprise. It is just a load voice “surprise”. When I open the door, he will run quickly to the kitchen room to hide. Then he will jump out and speak loudly “surprise” when I step into the door. At that time, I really feel pretty good.

The other is my wife. She take good care of our kids include me. In the past 8 years, she devotes herself to this family and makes everything pretty good. I cannot help telling her that she is really making me feeling good. Thanks a lot, my honey.

Last is my previous boss named Lu. I never feel that he is the boss. This is the really reason that I followed him over 6 six years. He not only gave me a chance do the work that I am really interested in but also provided me a chance to improve myself. I also have a chance to make mistakes but I will never make the same mistake over 3 times. My father always tells me to be honest, work hard and take care of my family. He really succeeded in his business. But I do no have a chance to learn from him because I studied and worked in Shanghai which is far away from hometown. I really appreciated that I have a chance to learn from Lu and I felt I made a good process during the past 6 years.

Finally I hope one day, someone can tell me that I have made them feel good.

Maxwell Hu

2013-06-10

Lesson 04: Reach them in the world

This is really a good topic. If we can reach them, we can steal their good ideas, learn a lot from them and finally make good friends with them.

But most of us want to know how to reach them in the world. Yes, this is a good question. How to reach them in the world? Now I’d like to share my experience with you.

I think there are 3 steps to reach them.

First is to listen. Listen what they talk. My sister told me that if you have time, you should go to Victory College to take a look. Maybe there are some classes which are good for you. I accepted her advice.  Then I went to Victory College and take some public classes. I did not know which class is good for me at that time. So I just listen, listen and listen. Then I can get more information and it can help me make a decision.

Second is to join. This is a very important step. After you listen, you should make a decision if it is really good for you. If it is, you must join them and you can really reach them. After I took the public classes in Victory College, I signed one class which was helpful for me at that time.

Last is to act. When you join them, you can get more ideas from them. We can borrow these good ideas and use them. After I signed one class, I really got a lot of good ideas that is really helpful for me.

This is the way that helped me reach Victory College. I hope it can be helpful for you.

Thanks guys.

Maxwell Hu

2013-06-05

Lesson 03: What’s wrong with all-Chinese schools in Canada?

Is there any wrong with all-Chinese schools in Canada? My answer is definitely NO.

I am really a Chinese in my blood. I am growing up in China and my schoolmates are all Chinese. Although I moved to Canada last year, I can survive in this new country without studying in a mixture school. I realized that my English is not good enough to communicate with native people frequently. So I made a decision to take this small class to improve it. Maybe it is easy to improve in a mixture school, but it is no evidence that there is any wrong with all-Chinese schools.

I have two kids, one is 6 years old and the other is 3 years old. I do not worry about that they can not be involved in this country. I am really afraid that they can not speak mandarin. I am afraid that they will bring a girlfriend or boyfriend with different color in the near future. If there are all-Chinese schools in Canada, I think it is a good way to help them make more Chinese friends in this country. It can help them make a feeling that although we live in a different country, we are Chinese in our blood.

This is my opinion. Thanks.

Maxwell Hu

2013-05-21

Lesson 02: Don’t bother if you’re not sincere

It is really a famous and popular TV show in China. My wife watched this TV show every weekend. I always sit beside her and watch it, too.

In fact there a lot of guys join this TV show for special girl. But most of them failed. Why? I made a conclusion that top reasons are below.

• They do not have the same background such as family, education, career and so on.
• Most of these guys express their emotion with long and beautiful words, but it really is not attractive.

I still remember that my experience of my looking for a job. In fact the process is very similar to this TV show. I also made a conclusion that why I can pass the interview and got this job. The main reasons are below.

• We have the same background. I have over 8 years about data warehouse and ETL projects. The company is looking for ETL specialist, too. So we have the same background.
• Simple is the best. At that time, I just moved to Canada. I really did not know how to express my work experience clearly. So finally I repeated three words over and over again during the interview to show me up that I am really an excellent guy. The words are “I love data”.

Maxwell Hu

2013-05-17

Lesson 01: MOMENT OF EMBARRASSMENT

When I am driving a car, my kids sit in the back seats always sing. The song they sing is very popular. I think all parents have sung this song to their kids. It is “The wheels on the bus”. 

One day I drove with my kids to the park. They were very happy and they sang this song together. I really felt happy and I follow them to sing this song, too. “The wheels on the bus go round and round. Round and round, round and round. The wheels on the bus go round and round. All through the town.”  Suddenly my kids stopped singing and laughed aloud. When they laughed, I stopped singing, too. I asked them why they were laughing. They did not tell me. After a while they sang again. I followed them, too. But when I sang at the point of “Bus”, they stopped to laugh again. I really was confused and I asked my daughter sincerely. “Please tell me why you laugh aloud.” This time my daughter told me the real reason. “Dad, you said Bus like 84. It is not 84. It should be Bus.”  At this time I realized that my pronunciation was wrong. But I really do know where I was wrong. At this time, my wife said. “You can not open your mouth wildly.”

I felt a little embarrass at this moment and I realized that the pronunciation was very important. And I did not worry about my kids a lot because they can learn English faster than me.

Maxwell Hu

2013-05-07